Wedding

Last Saturday we attended my cousin brother’s wedding. It was just a simple wedding, more to a family reunion and gathering. We reached TI on Saturday noon, the wedding day. Went to uncle’s house for lunch. Gosh..when I arrived, I can’t even spot where’s the groom and the bride (coz they were not wearing wedding attire!!) But still the atmosphere beside busy and noisy..it’s warm as we see each relatives trying to catch up with each other. Yes..only relatives were invited.. no friends…and no tea serving ceremony. And I didn’t even notice if there’s a bridal car with those ribbons and flowers ( no pictures taken during the day, as I was busy feeding the kids lunch after 2 hrs drive from KL to TI)

Cousin’s wedding dinner. ( In pic, cousin’s maternal grandpa, my maternal grandma and uncle)

It reminds me very much of my own wedding. One way another, it was similar to my cousin’s… simple and warm. I didn’t wear the wedding gown on my wedding day… it was a quiet wedding morning, only my parents and brother seeing me off. ( My relatives were mostly in TI, I was married off in KL..they only arrived later of the day for the wedding dinner. We only had 13 tables for the dinner, my close relatives, dear hubby’s relatives and in-laws close friends.

Have I ever regretted of such simple wedding? NO..to me, though simple, it was still very exciting and memorable. I didn’t want a lavish wedding, as at that time, I had a thinking of not wanting to finacially burden my parents to prepare one. And also to my father, he dislike all the rituals and fuss… I remember he always mentioned about lavish wedding as putting on a monkey show for people to see. Wedding to me is very personal and we prefer to celebrate it in a more quiet way. I remembered on the wedding eve, everything at home just seems so normal..except that I indulged myself in some spa services..I went to had a massage, milk bath.. had my nails done and also went to saloon to have a nice hair wash.. after that I just went home and had an early nite off. On the other hand, dear hubby had a busy nite. He had to go through the hair combing ceremony, some prayers and had a noisy night. I think the hokkien called it “kooi tia” , as in open the hall ..where friends and relatives were invited over.

Dear hubby with family on wedding eve

My Wedding Dinner

Wedding Day

In contrast to 2 very simple weddings… last November we attended dear hubby’s cousin’s wedding. Which was a very traditional peranakan wedding. It was loud and colourful. Dear hubby’s uncle is master of ceremonial for peranakan wedding. It’s good that there are people who is still doing this. Although I can’t see myself to have to go through one of those rituals, but certainly I have no objection to it. If everyone is like me, then the rich culture would have vanish one day.

Peranakan wedding. Throughout the dinner, the bride only wear this traditional gown and can only sits on the table the whole night. No going around “yum seng” with the groom.