Kid’s Health

WH was admitted to the hospital last November. It started off with red rashes all over his body, follow by fever and then swollen joints. For 3 days consecutively, we visited the doc and the paed, but the fever just won’t go down. We have suspected allergy, this careless mummy has introduce too much eggs to him at one go. ( For breakfast and lunch!!) . We were refer to another paed at KPJ, and Hanh was admitted and was put on drip. When the doc tried to insert the tube to his feet, the cry from my helpless baby is enough to melt my heart. For more than 1/2 hour the doc was trying but couldn’t find the blood vessel as the feet was so swollen. Shuen and me waiting outside the ER, I have the urge to hold and calm my baby and nurse him, but I couldn’t because dont want Shuen to witness the bloody scene. I can only cry outside listen helplessly to my baby’s cry. Anyhow, off we were at the hospital for 3 days and 2 nights and me celebrating my 29th birthday at the hospital with a very sick baby.

During the 2 nights stay, Shuen camped along with me and baby. She was not suppose to be at the hospital, but we have no choice or maybe we just gave in to her cry too easily and now we are suffering from the consequences. Parent’s in law and sister in law came rushing down to Seremban from Subang during Hanh’s admition. Shuen was suppose to stay home with in laws while I take care of the baby in the hospital, but she just cried for me, she threw up in the car on the way home and at home. She screamed and made a big fuss. So everyone gave in to her.

1st night, hubby slept on the couch, kids and me all cramped into the single hospital bed. 2nd night, we got extra bed, but still the kids and me share a bed. During the stay, Shuen also made friend with one girl of her age who was coughing badly and shortly after she herself was down with cough and flu. Hospital is really not a place for young visitors and they should be more strict with young visitors rule.

Ever since this unpleasant episode, both the kids health has not been as good as before.
Before that they hardly had any flu or cough, but now it has almost been 4 months, but the cough and flu has never really recovered. It’s like a merry-go-round, the kids and me taking turn to fall ill. During those nights when the kids are really sick, I will be sleep deprive. And it happen so often the flu will reocur. Especially for Shuen, she still got a lot of phlegm in her throat and she vomitted almost after every meal. There has been numerous doctor’s visit and medicine taken but there’s no improvement, both the kids had even been given nebulizer, really worried they will get ashtma. Recently we have also tried the TCM. Dear hubby doesn’t really have faith with TCM, and I know with TCM it will take a longer course to see the result.

Yesterday Shuen’s cough was really bad again. Stopped her chinese medicine and brough her to the paed. Again she has got a throat infection. The paed said now her throat are quite sensitive and easily affected by the environment ie food intake, weather, dust.. after this course of antibiotic, the paed wants me to try inhaler. But I’m in doubt. I will try to avoid medicine at all course, but will it do my kids good?

As for Hanh, after the chinese tonic, he seems better (*touchwood*) . I guess maybe because he’s breastfed.

Life As A Housewife

My daily routine as a housewife

School Day ( Shuen just started pre-school this Jan)
6.00am – 6.30am : Make breakfast for dear hubby. ( Only if Hanh does’nt wake up with his eyes half close, wailing and asked to be nursed back to sleep)

6.30am – 7.30am: Read newspaper, see dear hubby off to work. (Again, it depends on whether the kids is up or not. If they are up by any chance, I would be in the room continue to sleep with them and usually I will dooze off as well. Don’t want them to wake up so early, as they never go to bed early)

8.10am – 8.50am : Wake Shuen up, make milk for her, change her and get ready for school. Baby will be up by 8.30am, will watch when I change his sister and get things going.

8.55am : Leave house. ( Class starts at 9a.m. Lucky the preschool is nearby , but still we are always 5 mins late, spent about 15mins there to make sure she’s alrite, she’s still got separation anxiety )

9.30am – 11.45am : Back home, have breakfast, play with Hanh, bath Hanh. By this time the maid would have finished feeding him breakfast. Nurse Hanh and put him down for his morning nap. If he does nap, then I got a little time for myself to be in front of the pc. Twice a week I will also go to Giant ( near Shuen school) or the wet market in town (30 mins away) for groccery shopping. With this goes my morning.

11.50am : Out of the house to fetch Shuen home

12.15pm – 2.00pm: Home.. Feed Shuen lunch, bath her, settle her down for her nap. Have my own lunch. ( Don’t cook lunch at home, either eat leftover food, maggie mee or tar pau)

2.00pm – 6.00pm: Put the kids down for their afternoon nap. Have to lie down in between the kids as Shuen will only fall asleep with me beside her and I’m still nursing Hanh. When the kids are asleep, will be in kitchen preparing drinks for dear hubby (boils herbs or other drinks, desserts) and boil soup. After this, I will have my little time. Either read a book, have a short nap or time to sit in front of the pc. But this little luxury will always be interrupted especially if I’m in front of the pc or working in the kitchen. Either baby will be crying looking for his nan-nan, or Shuen looking for me… if Shuen is crying..I will have to dash to the room, afraid that her cry might woke baby up. . I wonder why everytime when I’m not side by side with the kids, they will not sleep through. They seems to be able to sense that when I’m not around even in their sleep. Sometimes I will also do a little baking if time permits

5.30pm – 6.30pm : Kids gets up. They want their snack. Play with them

6.30pm: Starts to cook.

7.00pm: Feed Shuen. Bath her

7.30pm: Get dinner ready and lay out at the dinning table. Serve my dear hubby.

8.00pm: Finally get to bath and then spent some times together as a family watching tv, listen radio, play with the kids, massage dear hubby. Sometimes prepare supper for dear hubby upon his request

10.00pm – 10.30pm : Read bedtime story, massage the kids (now this has gotten into a pre-bedtime routine, even baby knows how to request for it by bringing me the baby oil , pulling up his shirt and rub his little round tummy)

11.00pm: Kids sleep. I’m also half dead. And more than often dear hubby will be snoring away by this time already

(I’m lucky that I dont have to clean house, wash toilet, clean kitchen after cook, wash dish after eating, laundry, ironing, sort out the groccery after shopping etc etc. Use to do all these when I was without maid for 5 months. It was really taxing. I really salute to mums that is without a domestic help)

School Holiday

Basically the same as school days except that I dont have to sent Shuen to school and I will spent the morning playing along with her and Hanh. If in good mood, will prepare special lunch for Shuen. (That doesn’t mean she will eats it , as she’s so fussy, my effort always goes to waste)

(Don’t really get to use the PC much at night when dear hubby’s around. He doesn’t like it that I spent time in front of the PC instead of with him eventhough we don’t talk or he’s occupy with his own things. If he finds out that I’m in front of the pc late at night after he sleeps and found out that I’m not in the room, he will come look for me with his unhappy face)

Weekends

We spent most weekends in PJ. Most time dear hubby will be runner of his family or he got his errands to run. I will be staying back looking after the kids basic needs ie bathing, feeding, nursing, napping. We spent most time with my in laws , shopping or dine out with them. If time permits, I will have little time with my parents. If I am more lucky, perhaps I could have one afternoon when the kids are asleep, dear hubby and me will sneak out leaving the kids behind with sister in law and maid. This is the most luxiourious moment when only hubby and me alone in car and I get to sit in the front passenger seat and we can walk hand in hand in the shopping mall. Usually we will only be out for 2 hours and hubby will sent me for massage or facial.

Weekends in Seremban is like normal day. But we will go out for breakfast at coffee shop and we will have 1 meal eat out, so I’m been spared from cooking. Dear hubby will also spare me one afternoon so that I can drive out alone for a massage or hair wash.

Do I ever got bored with housewifey life? No, I don’t whenever I’m with my two precious kids. Everyday there seems to be new discovery especially with Hanh, and there’s always things that make me laugh. But at time, I do get frustrated. I felt that my brain is stagnant. Besides improving my cooking skill, there isn’t much that I’m advancing. (Very contradicting thoughts) I dont get much adult interaction, only kids talk and ordering maid to do work. Don’t really talk to hubby as kids always interrupt our conversation. Sometimes the aunty staying opposite will come over for chit chat ( She’s bored alone at home when her son’s at work and grandkids in school) but still I sometime feel out of touch with the outside world. Before I have broadband, i surf the net aimlessly, don’t get to do IM or MSN chat as the internet connection is slow , so end up lost touch with some friends. Now I don’t see them online often. Some friends are too occupy with work and their kids and friends with no kids are off different wavelenght as of mine.

Now that I have started to blog, but alot of mummy online already so advance and I feel like lacking behind.

Feel like taking up a part time course, or maybe part time home based job. Need to make my mind more alert. I do hope one day I will be back in the workforce, maybe when the kids are in primary school, maybe six to seven years time, that will be after our youngest kid get to primary school (hehehe..planning for one more in the piggy year) maybe….

School Holiday… Blog Break

It has been more than a week since my last blog. There has been so many things that I wanted to write down, but never seems to have the time to. I keep it in my mind, until 1 week later, I have forgotten most of it.

When Shuen is at home, she needs a lot of attention from me.

Shuen: ” Mummy, please look after me”
Shuen: ” Mummy, spent time with me!” (this is such a killer, how to refuse a kid with this request? Eventhough I have already spent enough time with her)
Shuen: ” Mummy, come draw with me”
Shuen: ” Mummy, I want do painting”
Shuen: ” Mummy, make playdough for me” (We have home made playdough made of flour instead of the commercial one)
Shuen: “Mummy, come ..”
Shuen: “Mummy, I want do Elmo on the computer”
Shuen: “Mummy, please on the TV for me”
Shuen: “Mummy, I want milk”
Shuen: “Mummy, come sleep with me” (Eventhough we are in the same room, bed side by side)
Shuen: ” Mummy… Mummy” etc etc

When I’m in front of the pc, she will want to go to her favourite sites.. so my pc will be sabotage by her.

She can go on none stop the whole day with mummy this and mummy that. If she does not get the attention she wants, she can get quite cranky, and then follow by a lot of crying,whinning, grizzle. At time, when she’s playing by herself, I have to watch out for Hanh. He will follow everywhere the sister goes, and copy whatever the sister does. And this sometimes irritates Shuen. Shuen sometimes can be over affectionate to the brother, hugs him too tight, or they will simply fight, snatch things from each other and she starts pushing Hanh away. Really keeping an eyes at them. And now Hanh also getting more active, he will climbs up stool and table. Can’t even leave my eyes from them for a moment.

Even with a maid at home to help out, still I don’t have enough time to do the things I wanted to. Even to surf the net I have to do it in a hurry. * Poor time management*

Most of the things I still prefer to do it myself, like spending more times with the kids. I bath and feed my girl, play and read to her, and sometimes if I have the extra time, I will feed Hanh also. But most school days, this task is for my maid. But I still try to bath him most of the time instead of letting the maid do it. My maid’s task is to clean the house & garden, prepare the things for me to cook (HEHEHE…I’m the CHEF with assitant), laundry, ironing, the mess that the kids made, the mess of vomitting that so often cause by Shuen, and the pees everywhere that drip down from Hanh’s cloth nappy, cook porriadge for Hanh and Shuen. So taking care of the kids and my dear hubby already taken up most of my time.

Last week during school holiday, mum also visited us for 2 days. So I was also busy making acar, baking cake and making wantan for my precious guest. Since mum is always busy during school days and I hardly got to talk to her, her visit was a time that I can gossip with her when the kids are napping. I just love my mum so much I would rather spent time with her than in front of the pc. . So there goes my ME time in front of the pc for the past 1 week.

The “How Old Are You” Tag

These were the things I vaguely remember.

1. Name one of the actor of the old days that you missed the most
黎明

2. Name a cartoon of the old old days
哪吒闹海, Smurf

3. Name a singer/group of the old days
巫启贤

4. Band of the old days
New Kids On The Block.

5.TV Series of the old days
阿信的故事, 烟雨蒙蒙

6. Actress of Old Days
王诅贤

7. Fashion of Old Days that you miss the most
乌鸦装 (a sea of black)

8. Movie of Old Days
荒洋中的一条船

9. Music Video of Old Days
Don’t remember any

10. Coolest Song of Old Days
然我欢喜然我忧