SAHM’s Views

Long long time ago, the roles of a wife and husband were more or less defined. The wife took care of the household, breeds and took care of the kids and also took care of the man’s need and pampered the man while the man brought back the bacon. Ocassionally, the man would mow the lawn, fix the bulbs and faucets, but that was it. Spending 8 to 10 hours at the office seems to be enough work. Afterall, they are the one earning the money, the sole breadwinner. It seems to be an unspoken term that men are entitled for after work leisure to de-stress.

Then came the time for change where women seek for equality. Women started to get themself educated and got themself job that could offer them high pay, fat bonuses, leaves , rewards and the sastifaction of career advancement and pleasures of climbing the corporate ladders.

Now again, there is a change of trend where many women has opted to give up their high flying job and become a full time mother or are working from home in a more flexi way. Again the husband become the sole breadwinner or the one still bringing more earning than the wife. One wonders : Why become a full time stay at home mum? What of the plain housewife who does not contribute monetarily? Without a salary and opportunities for ‘career advancement’,without leaves, MC , where do we get our short-term gratification and the long-term motivation to keep at our job?

For me, I’m very easy to please. I just need a generous, loving husband to keep going.

Husband’s role at home is more than just to help out with housework and the kids. I believe a husband’s primary job today, above and beyond his professional call of duty, provide a maid, is to take extra good care of his supermom-wife, more so than ever especially emotionally. (Full time parenting is a thankless job, still a hard work even with maid. Sitting in office, dealing with workers, bosses and machine problems will not be as exhausted as a mum-wife at 8pm I believe it is worst for those full time mums without maid)

As much as I love every moment with my kids, nothing beats the love from my man after a long day. Just wish to have a nice, snuggly hug more often and that will really brings me to cloud nine. That will be my bonus, my motivation to try harder to be a better wife, better mum.

p/s: I find my dear hubby super sexy and heart warming when he attends to the kids. When he changes their nappies, bath them, really put down the papers and remote controls to spent time with them is just so so sexy.