Fun ‘n Go Tag

First time kena “tag” wor… have to fast fast accomplish mission. Actually we’ve just got back from Fraser’s & PJ, quite tiring , shouldn’t be sitting in front of the PC to do this. I’m not a PC addict, just that I’ve finished my work (unpacking, making chekodok, cooking dinner, and dear hubby and kids are napping), the PC is on (DH on it right after we got back to download movies), that’s why I’m here to read blog and check mails.

1. Grab the book nearest to you, turn on page 18 and find line 4.
在感激你们的一切帮助. 3[T]领会; (CONCISE English-Chinese, Chinese-English DICTIONARY)

2. Stretch your left arm out as far as you can.
Bed frame

3. What is the last thing you watched on TV?
This morning Astro 63, Highilly Town Hero

4.Without looking, guess what time it is?
5.30pm

5. Now look at the clock, what is the actual time?
5.09pm

6. With the exception of the computer, what can you hear?
Fan turning sound, maid arranging carpet

7. When did you last step outside? What were you doing?
10 minutes ago, checking porriadge

8. Before you started this survey, what did you look at?
Bloglines for lastest blog updates, went first to TWINSMOM’s blog

9. What are you wearing?
Nursing top and short

10. Did you dream last night?
Don’t know..too tired, JS vomitted at 1am

11. When did you last laugh?
Moment ago, reading twinsmom’s blog

12. What is on the walls of the room you are in?
Dear hubby’s certs

13. Seen anything weird lately?
Not very observant person to notice anything weird.

14. What do you think of this quiz?
fun “quah”

15. What is the last film you saw?
eerr…haven’t seen any for ages

16. If you became a multimillionaire overnight, what would you buy?
Go travel around the world

17. Tell me something about you that I dunno.
There’s alot you don’t know about me. So where to start???

18. If you could change one thing about the world, regardless of guilt or politics, what would you do?
Free medical and education

19. Do you like to dance?
I don’t know how..a bit self concious..

20. George Bush.
US president lor

21. Imagine your first child is a girl, what do you call her?
My first child already a girl..her name 嘉璇

22. Imagine your first child is a boy, what do you call him?
Yi Heng 毅恒.

23. Would you ever consider living abroad?
YES, YES YES, always hoping and dreaming

24.What do you want GOD to say to you when you reach the pearly gates?
Don’t know…never think of it.

25. Five (5) people who must also do this meme in their journal.

1+2Mom

Khongfamily

aiya..I don’t know many people from blogsphere to tag lah…how huh???

Globalisation

A forwarded mail. Thought it’s funny

Question: What is the truest definition of Globalization?

Answer: Princess Diana’s death.Question: How come?

Answer:
An English princess with an Egyptian boyfriend crashes in a French tunnel, driving a German car with a Dutch engine, driven by a Belgian who was drunk on Scottish whisky, (check the bottle before you change the spelling) followed closely by Italian Paparazzi on Japanese motorcycles; treated by an American doctor, using Brazilian medicines.

This message is originally from an African, using Bill Gates’s – (an American) technology and you’re probably reading this on your computer, that uses Taiwanese chips and a Korean monitor, assembled by Bangladeshi workers in a Singapore plant, transported by Indian lorry-drivers, hijacked by Indonesians, unloaded by Sicilian longshoremen and trucked to you by Mexicans and now being read by a Malaysian who should be working instead!

THAT MY FRIENDS, IS GLOBALIZATION!

Another Long Dreadful Night

Another long dreadful night that makes me want to give up breastfeeding. I’m in so much pain, not only sore nipples but the whole body is aching mainly due to poor positioning when nurse lying down.

Last night I was having a hard time putting WH to sleep. He was latched on for more than and hour, wide eyes opened though we have already off the lights. Dear hubby already in deep slumber, even JS couldn’t wait for me to sleep with her and fell asleep without me lying beside her. WH isn’t feeling sick (the time that he find it difficult to sleep and need to be nursed longer), and he isn’t hungry ( fed him full bowl of porriadge plus snack for dinner, and he nibbled on our dinner as well, on top of that he requested for 4oz of milk twice before bed that made up to 8oz of formula), I just don’t know why he wants to be nursed for so long. Is it his growth spurt? Teething? Going to get sick? Now.. I have lost the cue. Usually he falls asleep quite fast, just a short while of nursing, he would be in deep slumber, or if he’s full from the formula, he would just suckle for a while and rolled over to another side and fall asleep by himself. What’s going on this past few nights??? I was sleepy, but I can’t fall asleep, mainly because WH hasn’t fallen asleep yet and also I’m not lying in my comfortable sleeping position and I have to change side nursing him when can’t bear the pain at one side any longer. His hands and legs are “kepiting” all over me. Inside me I was urging him to fall asleep fast, but end up taking more than 1 hour.

I want to wean him, I want to wean him, but the “kiasu-ism” in me just not really ready to do so. I haven’t reach the 2 years mark yet!! I felt if I give up now, it would be a sign of failure, because there are mummies that able to breastfeed well beyond 2 years and even tandeem nurse. How am I going to sooth him when he’s no longer nursing? Should I or should I not just yet??

Attachment Parenting

I’m an advocate of attachment parenting. What’s is attachment parenting? Actually it’s the most natural and basic way of bringing up your child, following your parental instints, listen to your heart. Before I even come to know the term “attachment parenting”, I’m already practising with without realising there is a name for it.

Attachment parenting according to Dr Sears is a connecting tools, interactions with your child that help you and your child to get connected.

The baby B’s of attachment parenting (The connecting tools)
1) Birth bonding
2) Breastfeeding
3) Babywearing
4) Bedsharing
5) Belief in baby’s cries
6) Balance and boundaries
7) Beware of baby traines

And it’s believes that by practising this, you will have a higher chance to raise a child with the A’s and C’s qualities

A’s
Accomplished
Adaptable
Adept
Admirable
Affectionate
Anchored
Assured

C’s
Caring
Communicative
Compassionate
Confident
Connected
Considerate
Cuddly
Curious (Inquisitives)

When I got to know more about it, I can’t help myself nodding and agreeing to it. It’s the most natural way and it’s just plain commen sense.

Birth bonding: It’s so natural one wants to bond with the kids. For me the moment I delivered them, I want to have them close to me and I have developed these separation anxiety when they were put in the nursery.

Breastfeeding: Everyone knows breastfeeding is the golden choice to provide nutrition to the baby. I failed badly the first time, but at least for the first 3 months, my girl has got the best I could ever offered.

Babywearing: When WH was very young and me without a maid, it’s just so natural for me to wear him and do housework at the same time. Eventhough it might take double a time to accomplish a simple task. I just couldn’t leave him crying or being disturbed by the sister. Even now, when we go out, I still wear my baby when he’s too tire to walk. The beauty is we don’t need to have 2 stroller. 1 for the sister is good enough.

Bedsharing: Again, it came so natural to me and hubby and we have never think twice that things should be the other way round

Belief in baby cries: DONT EVER BELIEVE IN CRY IT OUT METHOD. IF YOU DO, YOU ARE ONE HEARTLESS PARENT. Me and hubby are having different views on bringing up the child. He always blame me of spoiling them, giving them too much face. But again, he will never have let the baby cry for more than a minute. We would quickly drop everything and attend to our kids. (Though now that JS already so big, when she cries, we know she’s just plain manja, we would scold her instead for doing so sometimes), so does anyone in the family. No one in the family thinks that the baby cries is manipulating us. It’s a way young babies communicate to us since they can’t talk. We just have to listen and we will surely be able to find out the reason of their cries. Only if we are careful enough to notice the different type of cries and only when you know your baby well. (This can be achived by bonding)

Balance and boundaries: Don’t neglect your own need. Go for a spa, or have a longer bath without the kids bothering you. Let your hubby do the work and time for them to bond too. When you can take care of yourself and are refresh enough, you will surely be able to respond to your kids appropriately. And I also finds that with a harmonious home, they child will grow up more healthily.

Beware of baby trainers: Again follow your heart. I care not about what other people say, I just do what I think is right for my kids following their cues (as a mother that spent most of the time with them, I certainly know my kids better than anyone does) especially when I have been showed with a restrained style of babycare from people that don’t have kids their own and want to act smart from what they have heard.

More Reads:
http://www.attachmentparenting.com/

Weaning Baby

WH’s going to be 18th month old next week, I’m planning to wean him off from the breast. When I first decided to fully breastfeed WH, concerned relatives including my mum were worried that it would be a difficult task to wean him off. At that time, as determined as I would be, I never given it a thought and lightly brushed them off and secretly hoping that by the time comes I would certainly find a way. 很阿Q的想,船到桥头自然直. I was secretly hoping for magical to happen that my boy will be able to self wean just like how he self trained on the potty matter.

Now I really do not have a clue. Besides supplementing him with formula since he’s 1 year old, I have not really seriously tried other ways. I haven’t even been pushy on his formula intake and just allow him to take which ever amout he likes and when only he demanded it. In a way I don’t really want to let go just yet, the bond we have founded a year ago is hard to break. It’s also the easiest way to calm him when he’s feeling down and when he’s in pain (no amount of coaching and carrying can beats nursing, which would make him calm and stop crying) And also I want to try to break the 2 years mark (WHO recommended two years of breastfeeding)

No matter how hard I wanted to keep going, I’m starting to feel a little uncomfortable. He’s very mobile now and breastfeeing is no longer like when nursing a little baby which will stay put very still. WH is now nursing and at the same time kicking me or he would twist and turn so that he could look around and at the same time still latch on. (That causes alot of pain) When nurse lying down, especially in the middle of the night, me not fully awake, he would nurse and at the same time the tiny hands will run all over my body, which makes me feel real uncomfortable and even finds it quite irritating. I will try to “kapit” his hands with my legs so that he wont be able to move, but that does not help much. The most uncomfortable is when he starts putting his hands in my pants and stroke my lower abdomen….argh….

He must have been really addicted to be nursed, not so much to fill his little tummy, but much for comfort, I’m a walking pacifier!! Half way playing, he would come to me and pull my shirt and after a few minutes, he would go off to continue his play. However these few days he has been nursing quite extensively until I start to have leaky boobies again (just like the first few months started to breastfeed), feeling a little engorged too..

My first attempt last night, wanted to try not to nurse him to sleep. Instead of lying down with him, I tried to sit up and pat him (hoping that he won’t get the “smell”) but there was a lot of fussing, not crying, but just plain fussing. I wanted to be persistent and ignore the fuss, but after a few minutes, JS just couldn’t stand her little brother making so much noise and she said “mummy mummy, baby want nen nen lah. Give baby nen nen lah, he’s making so much noise already” “why dont want give didi nen nen?” Aiya..my willpower not strong and I just give in to what my little girl commented. It’s going to be a hard long way to go before WH will be off from my boobies…

JS Vs WH

JS: A grump. Very difficult to get her smile. It’s in the look, the lips is somewhere pointing downwards that makes her look angry 古气
WH: A cheerful guy, most of the time he’s smiling. (Mum said eats a lot of chocolate during pregnancy will result in a happy kids. Myth?? ) 开心果

JS: Very manja. Everytime wakes up will cry in bed to get attention
WH: Sunny boy. Each time wakes up with a smile. If he happens to be crying, he will still come out walk around the house to look for me instead of crying alone in the room.

JS: Loves to be hug and cuddle and snuggle up against my chest
WH: The most is he will ask for an embrace, then he would happily wiggle off. If I hug him longer, he would struggle to be let go.

JS: Very dependent, needs me to be near her all the time
WH: Independent. Notice him playing by himself most of the times

Baby Loves Mummy

WH was having his favourite biscuit during afternoon tea. We just purposely want to tease him, JS, the maid and me each take turn to ask for some biscuit from him. He refused to, then I said “mummy, hungry hungry” , straight away he offers me the biggest pieces, then I said “jie jie and kakak also hungry” but this time he doesn’t want to give any to them, no matter how we persuaded him. Feel a bit victorious as baby cares for me the most.

Thoughtful JS

Afternoon JS took out her “Fun With Cooking Under 6″ book and wanted to do one of the recipe. Helped her to take out the jam from the fridge and she did the rest of “work” by herself. After she’s done, I thought she wants to eat it herself and told her sternly “you better eat fast fast and finish it”, but she just quietly when over to take a plate and arrange the bread nicely on it and then proceed to daddy. I heard her saying this “Daddy, I made this for you” (since DH has got no appetite and hasn’t eaten much and I have earlier asked him whether he wants bread, I think JS must have overheard and when to prepare bread for daddy). Bad mummy has misjudge her moves again.

Later she told the maid in a solemn mood “Daddy is not feeling well, kaak”

Art & Craft

Another painting session for the kids

Refused to have his shirt taken out. Only happy to comply when I have to take out his sister’s shirt as well

Painting with ladyfingers and leafs

It’s more fun with hand/fingers paint!

Dear Hubby Not Well

Dear hubby isn’t feeling well. He has been having tummy ache for about a week or so already. It has been bothering him so much until sometimes he got no strenght to talk to me and the kids cries and voices irritates him so much. He has been to the panel clinic two days ago, but still doesn’t seem to get better. He suspected that because of the yoga lessons (He just signed up for one of the fitness center and attended 2 yoga classes) that make him overstretch. Anyhow, he went to the panel clinic again and was refer to go for further check in GH, Seremban.

So dear hubby when there, the time he sms-ed me was about 10am, his number 1799 and the calling number at that time was 1729. DH waited for an hour still no where near his turn. (That’s one reason why I hated goverment services, I will try to avoid by all means, be it the goverment hospital or goverment dental clinic, national registration department, immigration department. All these will requires you to waste your time queuing and waiting and worst you even need to get up at dawn to start queing up). DH decided not to wait and proceed to a private hospital. Got everything checked and had an ultrasound scan, all done in within an hour. Everything seems normal, cause of pain undetected.

I’m always worried of DH’s health. My family are very health consious and one of my aunt is even health freak after some health scares she has encounted years ago. We tend to be more contious on the way we eat, but DH’s family is very different. They have a very typical Chinese thinking that when one is able to eat, that’s fortunate (吃得是福). So they tend to overeat without control (大鱼大肉,暴饮暴食), of course partly also they have been through very hard life before, and now that they are living a more comfortable life, they do not want to deprive themself from what they have missed out. And also because DH is the pet of the family, there are always ample of food ready for him to munch at. More so often DH is indulged with his favourite seafood of crabs and squids which is very high in colesterol. I’m very concerned over DH’s eating habit, after a full dinner meal, he can still munch on alot of snacks and even a full serving of fast food meals and then head straight to bed. There is a saying “早上吃得饱,中午吃得好,晚上不吃会更好” (One need to have filing breakfast to give you energy for the day, lunch needs to be nutricious, it’s better to skip dinner), I believe we need to let our digestive system rest and not overwork them at night in order to maintain good health. I have tried to say as much as I can on DH’s eating habit, but I really can’t stop him and control him. Also DH is lack of exercise, he might have gone for a jog or to the driving range, but it’s not really often enough to be good. What can I do?

DH just told me that there might be a possibility that he will be admitted if he still feel the pain tomorrow. Need to be put on drips and have blood test done. Hopefully he will feel better tonight