Was surfing MMB. Found out this thread. I have forgotten that I’ve actually written these. Just copy and save it here. Now looking back, I don’t know why I worried so much. Without a maid, things turn out pretty well. Especially during the time I’ve just delivered WH and doing confinement with only mum taking care of me. I have also ATE my words of not wanting a maid anymore. I had 2 after the below incident. But I’m just glad that things turn out to be very well with the current maid and even the time without a maid. I don’t know why I have all the worries I had. Now I know, no matter what, no need to be panic, somehow we will manage to pull through. If there’s a will, there’s a way. Shall always remember that!
Posted: Fri Sep 17, 2004 6:40 pm Post subject: MaidWe have just got a maid 2 months ago, because baby is going to due soon and DH thinks that is good to have a maid around to help me out.
The problem now is that , our maid seems to be very “hou mia”, and there seems to be nothing much for her to do. Our aparment is very small and I am taking care of Nicole myself most of the time. The maid sleeps very early (at 9 pm) and have nap in the afternoon. and she eats what we eat. Her task is just house chore.
After 2 months of such relaxation, she’s getting slack (perhaps I have spoilt her too much… I’m not very commading and does not know how to put on a strict face in front of her) Just got my phone bill and it cost a bomb …. apparently she has been making calls to Taiwan and Indonesia behind our back.
Moo-mies out there with maids… what does your maid do daily… how to give them more work?? I really can’t think of anything to keep her REAL busy in the house everyday and how do you all control your maid.
Nicole is so use to have me taking care of her, she refuses to let the maid to feed her, bath her and put her down to nap. I’m slowly letting the maid bath her though… it’s very sad to see her yell her lungs out everytime I tell her “Kakak pomp pomp u”. Now my DH said, to give the maid more job… Nicole shall be sleeping with the maid
Nicole has been co-sleep with me since she was 7 months old … I really don’t want her to sleep with the maid , and I definately don’t want my kid/s to be more attached to the maid than to me. How to entrust more childcare task to the maid and without having my kid/s to be attached to them? Actually I enjoy and prefer taking care of my kid/s myself more than pushing the task to the maid. DH has different view, he said that I won’t be able to cope with 2 kids and I have to slowly let go and let the maid take over the task. Really headache… and feeling heartache too by thinking of letting the maid taking care of my kid/s … the feeling is like asking me to part with my kids
Posted: Sat Sep 18, 2004 10:41 am
Sigh… maid is good to have, but also will cause a lot of headache. They are around to do the dirty work… where I get to spent more quality time with Nicole or perhaps with DH too… DD is always my priority… My maid’s task list is even longer than what you all have listed…but yet she still looks so free Perhaps when the little one arrive, she will be more occupy… Doris ..can’t spare my maid lah… I’m also due the same time as you. Will make her hand wash all the lampin… Talk about parenting issue… DH and me definately are from very very different school of thoughts… During the early days when we just have Nicole… so much quarrel… now he just keep his mouth shut and let me have my way .. no point of talking him out… he’s just a stubborn bull.
Posted: Wed Oct 06, 2004 11:45 pm
I just couldn’t believe this is happening to me. My maid just ran away a few hours ago … she ran away with very light luggage…a backpack with some personal cloths… good things is all our valuable is untouched… even the pocket money we gave her is still around. No idea where she has gone without a penny. I cant imagine she can just leave the house in 10 minutes when me and Nicole is having a good time in the shower togehter…. Now that I’m maidless … and going to due in just a few weeks time.. how am I going to cope…. Have to make police report tomorrow and to the maid agency.
Posted: Thu Oct 07, 2004 12:44 pm
Just got back from the police station and maid agency. Trying to get a temporary maid…but won’t be able to get confirmation until next week. New maid needs 1 1/2 month to arrive ..and yet we have not found a suitable candidate today… new batch of candidate will only be available month end. mum promised to help on the confinement.. she will buy all the stuff and cook for me… but i feel bad if i have to get her to do the housework and taking care of Nicole as well during the confinement month…. and for the next two weeks… i still have to work before my long long break…. how to work in front of the pc…taking care of hsework and nicole without the maid…. eventhough with a maid.. my colleague already complain abt me curi tulang…take things for granted….( office politic…another story)… aiya…so stress now…
Posted: Mon Oct 11, 2004 9:56 am
Was disoriented and panic stricken when the maid left and also felt shameful of myself that I’m not able to control the maid. Anyhow, was trying to adapt to taking care of Nicole and work without the maid. However the story does not just end here. I’ve to go through another episode of nightmare as the maid came back like a haunting ghost. Saturday afternoon… the whole family went out to my in law’s place. In within 1 1/2 hour… when we got home, I realize something amiss. DH was complaining abt the way I latched the padlock at the grill, but I know I didn’t put it that way. Once I opened the door, I knew our house has been intruded. Not broken in… as the doors are all nicely locked up when we reached home. First saw an empty flower vase on the piano lid. Which was 1/2 full of coins (I think worth RM50 – RM100) which we put on top of the piano with the artificial flowers… the flowers were taken out and was on the piano top. The key basket was disoriented. Checked through the house, master bed room was in a mess… toothpaste has been squeezed everywhere on the bed to the bedside table to the lamp shade… after checking… we found out we lost a bunch of house keys..which can access to the whole house… 1 tub of ice cream…1 bath towel belongs to Nicole… 2 packs of sanitary pads (yes…the thief stolen 2 packs of sanitary pads) and one of the pad wrapping was found on the floor. 1 bottle of vitagen..drank and empty bottle left at my doorstep. of course the coins were all missing..and my car tyre puntured.. We knew for sure this is done by the maid. Though we have taken extra precaution to get a new padlock for the grill..but somehow also due to our carelessness, we have left the key to easy accessible place when we left the house and we didn’t know our wooden doorknob was broken. Now we have again changed all the padlocks and doorknobs…but I still feel very unsafe and uncomfortable staying in my own house… I have this feeling of being watched/stalked … and the mental exhaution of keep worrying of our safety. I keep worrying that the maid will be backed again.. I know her intention might be to come back to get back her own things…which we have packed away and kept in the store room… I’m just so worry that out of desperation of money.. she might strike our house again. After this incident.. I have made up my mind of not getting anymore maid…not even temporary one…. Will get my aunt and mum to help during confinement…and engage weekly cleaners for cleaning the house. I might even want to move in with my in laws or parents from next week onwards … It’s such a daunting experience .
Posted: Mon Oct 11, 2004 10:39 am
Yes… we made police report…One on the run away.. and another on the break in. The sarjan even came to dust finger prints But indeed this is a blessing in disguise. Nicole is not attached to the maid and I don’t rely on the maid to take care of her… and also I think my maid is a bit cuckoo..and good thing she will never get a chance to take care of the newborn..who knows what she will do to the little baby. I’m blessed to have a loving family and I believe without a maid , we will just manage fine… this morning my fil came over at 6.30am just right after DH stepped out the house to work…to come jaga the house for us… I’m really touched by that. And throughout this week.. I will have my mil, aunt and mum to take turn to company me at night … so i don’t have to stay home alone with Nicole .
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