Who You Love More?

I like to teasingly ask JS this question “You love daddy more or mummy more?”
JS would always say without fail ” I love daddy and mummy” — how smart
But when I ask her “You love mummy or xxx(any other relative) more?”
JS would surely answer “I love mummy more”

JS always tells me she loves me and always want to kiss and hug me. Very affectionate. Just now she said to me “Mummy, I love you so much so much. You don’t grow old” Touching.

New Activity

There is this new activity I do together with JS…..READING. I have started this during the school holiday. On top of her school work, we make it a habit to read a page a day, so far we have stick on to this routine. Not story telling, but getting JS to read. I’ve tried when she was 2 1/2 yrs old. But at that time she was not ready, so the reading got abadone. Now that she has shown sign of readiness and I’m starting her off again. So far the progress is good. We are using Ladybird Peter & Jane. Mum hand me down the whole set (Mum started teaching me reading that when I was age 5). I’m proud and glad of her progress.

I’m thinking of starting her with Chinese words as well. Have to think of a way. Maybe will have to do my own flash cards. As chinese character is different from English and Malay. There is no phonic and suku kata. It’s plain recognizing and memorizing the character and stroke. Thinking of getting the GD Chinese reading kits, but it’s so expensive. There are so many chinese characters and it’s not easy to learn. Really have to start now.
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New words WH says

Airplane
Jojo (Jojo the clown on playhouse disney)

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Wanted to write more about what I’ve learn in my course in my blog. Unfortunately, I haven’t fully comprehend what I’ve learn, so not able to write, afraid of wrong information. Need to get back to do my assignment. Ahhh..sitting in front of the pc is so hard to concentrate. It’s so natural for me to switch to blog surf and typing in my own blog….

Baby Language

I’ve notice that it’s quite common practise in Chinese family that when they speak to a baby or a young child, the use alot of “baby language” (a self invented words of things)

For me, I carry out a conversation with my kids as if they are adult. Just the normal way that I would have talked to any adult. I believe that by doing so, it can help on their language development and learning new words (verbally).

With JS, I can only remember using one or two “baby words” – “chut chut” = pacifier and “ng ng” = passing motion. I don’t remember using the words “mum mum”= eating, “oin oin”= sleep. Now JS don’t use these “baby words” anymore. When she wants to pee, she said ” xiao bian” and she wants to pass motion, she said ” pang sai, berak, ta bian”

With WH also the same, I use “nen nen” to differentiate between cow’s milk and breastfmilk. If I use milk, he would be confuse with the milk his sister has and the one he’s having. When I instruct him to do something, I talk as if he can understand each and every single words. Our list of baby language is very limited.

But one think I do is that almost everything has got a friendly name. i.e spider = incy spider, crab = crazy crabs, bee=bumbo bee, sun = Mr Sun and the list goes on. In a way I think is good, because it can also train them to be creative and ability to describe things.

Guilty

Whenever WH did something he’s not suppose to e.g switching off the PC power when I’m still working on it, snatching my glasses, he knew he’s wrong immediately after his action. Guilt written all over his face. I don’t even have to raise my voice to scold him. Just a little “HEEMMM” he would start crying. He would either straight away cry and hug me or go running away looking for the maid. Because he’s so guilty , he would refuse to look at my eyes when the maid is carrying him, when I ask him to come over, he even refuse to. When he finally came, and I try to talk to him, he would look away. His action is so cute that I wanted to laugh out loud. After I sayang him, he would rub away his tears with his chubby little way, absolutely adorable.

Another quality I observed in WH is that he’s a patient boy. When he’s playing alone, whenever things he cannot get it done right, he would patiently try and do it again and again until he gets it. As for JS, she would have got frustrated after the first failed attempt and give up asking for help.

Fighting

When JS and WH were not playing well together and loving each other, they usually end up fighting with each other, snatching each other toys. Usually WH would end up to be the looser and came running crying looking for me, as if complaining to me about his sister. Sometimes I will end up with 2 crying kids. I just don’t understand why, there are so many toys at home, why do they each like the one that either one is holding. It has been laid there so long , no one touching it, but once someone started playing with it, the next will want to play with it as well. JS will claims that everything is hers. I try to be neutral and I try not to intervene and let them fence for themself until I see that whatever they do will end up hurting each other. It’s hard to play referee. I try not to side on either one. I try not to make JS feel that being the eldest, she has to always give in to her brother. When would they stop finding and learn to share?

Recently I also found JS always pinch, beat and kick WH when no one is watching. I caught her red handed a few times. Does she think that WH has threaten her position and grabbing too much attention from me?