Hubby wasn’t feeling well yesterday after he got back from work. He was having a really bad migrain. I blamed it to the interrupted rest by being stirred from an inconsiderate phone call at the wee hours.
Each time he’s not really feeling well he tends to get worried but after a while and most of the time he takes his health for granted. Though he doesn’t smoke nor drink but hub has a very unheahtly lifestyle. He doesn’t exercise and the way he pigged out is really alarming and in the eyes of a health freak, it’s unapproval on the way he eats and he spent almost 10 hours a day in the office. But he just doesn’t seem to care. He’s not those very strong healthy kind of person, he falls sick easily ( I guess it’s due to MIL’s different school of thoughts that he hasn’t been given balance nutritiounious food when he was young)
He has piled up a lot of weight over the years, the chin has gone and with a big bulgy tummy at his young age. He complaints of occational chest pain, the migrain and the daily lethargic but he’s not doing anything to it.
I try to hint but I don’t want to be seen forever nagging and I don’t want to be seen as ever controlling him. I don’t know what to do to change his lifestyle. I don’t know what I can do to help or at least motivates him. It’s his life and I have no control over it. There’s no point talking, because at the end it will end up in arguments and he always has his reasons. He just don’t see my point of view.
Sometimes I blame myself, because I can’t help cooking his favourite unheahtly food to sastify his tastebud. I want to cook something more healthy, but I dont want to end up seeing unhappy face at the dining table and the ordering of supper later on. I want to please him and pamper him and maybe I’m doing him more harm than good. I’ve been put in such a difficult position and I don’t know what to do. Even my parents and my relatives (yeah..my family are all health freaks) have been hinting to me that he should watch out his diet, but I know he would never take it seriously from me. Hub’s family has a very different school of thoughts. They think that being able to eat is having good life (吃得是福), my in-laws over indulged hub with food from breakfast to lunch to tea to dinner and supper, from snack to dessert there’s always ample food for him to munch. They just pampered their son/bro with food. He has this habit of munching eventhough he’s already full and he always tends to overstuffed himself. They have forgotten about doing things in ‘moderation’. Hub is not getting younger and I suppose one metabolism rate slows down when they aged, hence having a full stomach and go to bed will put a lot of strain on the body and will tend to overwork the organs. But my hub doesn’t believe this.
He doesn’t bothered to find out about his family medical history. I only know that FIL has got high blood pressure and is on daily medication and all FIL’s brothers died young. So I’m actually contanstly worrying about the silent killer (heart attack, stroke).
I’m constantly and secretly worried and I’m praying daily for him to have good health forever. I try not to think of the negative side, but I cant help to feel worry. The kids are still young. We need him badly and I can’t imagine of the unthinkable consequences of him not taking care of his health. I try hard not to think about it, but denying it doesn’t mean it will never happen….
I feel heartbreak each time he’s not feeling well. I feel helpless that I cannot help him in the least mean of prevention and taking care of his health. I feel frustrated that he doesn’t see my fears and worries.
Why not take care of oneself now and avoid suffering later. When one is sick, not only he himself suffers but all the loves one around suffers together as well.
Sometimes I feel like wanting to scream at him ”If not for your own sake, please take care of yourself for the kid’s sake”
