Don’t Lable/Judge The Kids

The other day, SIL#1 brought over 4 flags for the kids to play, we already had one at home…so while they are playing with it, I just casually asked JS how many flags she has, I’m trying to teach her addition with this example, I shown her 4 fingers on my left hand plus 1 on my right hand and wanted her to count…but she wasn’t paying attention that time and didn’t really want to count…

SIL#1 straight away shaked her head and said “She’s really bad in maths huh!” Tiu…JS’s not even 4 lah…she’s not a genius (神童） and I’m just about to start teaching her and what do you expect and what kind of remark is that. I hate this kind of negative remarks. It’s very discouraging to hear and it’s in a way or two hurting the kid’s pride. I used to be kiasu mum, I was afraid that JS wouldn’t be able to catch up, but after taking up my course, I have relaxed a lot and I let her take her own pace. I no longer in hurry for her to know everything and be good at everything…

SIL#1 is very different..she doesn’t have her own kids and she doesn’t know a wee bit about parenting. She is surrounded and influence by the kiasu mass (her colleagues la) She always tell me that I should send JS to this, to that… I don’t like

I prefer to let them enjoy and have carefree childhood, I want them to learn at their own pace and I hate to have them being judged and it’s like a final verdict….”She’s bad in maths” (hell…JS not paying attention to me la, if not she can count, ok, she’s not that bad)…”she should go Limkwokweng next time since she’s good at art”…i hate all this remarks… why jump in a conclusion so early…why not just let the kids explore their own potential with our proper guidance, it’s not for one to judge if the kids is good at one thing or another or not….I’m not worry if she’s not excel in addition or whatever at this moment…because I know she will surely pick up one day when she’s ready…just like reading. ..

I Hate The Idiot Box

I hate the idiot box…lately my kids have been so so so addicted to it already. Everyday they need to have it on for lunch and dinner. Wake up in the morning, first thing ask to on TV. Come back from school, not even have lunch or sit down already ask for TV….how I hated the idea. They get to watch for the most 2 2/1 hours a day… and I think that is already way too much.

I hate that, I hate that….I need to start imposing rules and restriction on them watching TV already and have to be really firm with it.

More Guilts

I always have these guilty feeling….I’m feeling that I have not spent enough time with my children. I wonder if I’m having too much “ME” time in front of the pc, it’s already my habit that I need to sit in front of the PC daily and this makes me feel very very guilty.

As a SAHM, I always feel that I should do more activities together with my kids, homeschooling and other fun things, but I know that I’m not doing enough. I always let them play by themself . I’m always aroung them, but I feel that my involvement in their activities to stimulate them is still very much lacking. I do spent time with them, but at the same time my mind is occupied with other stuffs, so I’m not fully paying 100% to them when I’m with them…this makes me feel very quilty

How I wish I can spent them with them without any distraction…without having to think of what to cook, without having to think of the unfinished assignment, without having to blog in mind, without any worries, without thinking of the PC… I wish I could do that, spending time with them without distraction…