Choke…Choke…Cough…Cough..

Haze, haze…I hate the haze. JS has been coughing badly since last Thursday. She’s like the walking indicator on the haze index. Whenever her cough gets worst, which means the haze is thick.

Most night since Thursday she would sleep through, on Saturday 3.30am her cough was really bad, I got out to the kitchen to get her warm water, OMG…the living room is so stuffy with stilled smelly air that almost choke me to death. That’s how bad the haze it…until I got back into the air con room, the burning smell still lingers around me for a good 20minutes or so. It makes me sniff, sneeze and lethargic, teary eyes, headache and dried itchy throat too….Imagine an adult also feel the effect, what about young children. Early this morning at 2am, she started coughing hard again…so annoying those cough in the middle of the night… JS has been on Ventolin syrup, ventolin inhaler since last week…my poor girl..I wonder how many other children like her are suffering.

Stay indoor is the advise….but that’s not truly effective unless it’s an air conditioned house. Just can’t close all the windows..the house will be so stuffy like an oven, with the windows open, surely the smelly burning air will seep in. We dont have air con in the whole house …..and even if we do..we can’t possibily on it 24/7…ooi..that will cost a bomb la. Even with one air con in the room also cannot afford to on it 24/7 la… What about people dont have air con at home….really suffering. 

It’s so bad here even the house compound has got all those black ashes flown in from dont know where…

(Mountain view at our housing area gone…hidden behind thick haze)

On Sunday morning, it was the worst….but we braved through the haze to go to Nilai3 for shopping….real crazy idea (wanted to buy a car that can be ride on for WH’s birthday), haze at that place was worst than our Taman. Didn’t enjoy shopping there though there are lotsa shops ranging from toys to textile to carpets to potteries… we ended up buying some cheaplake toys and no car because WH can’t find one he likes.

 On the way to Nilai along the highway

 Nilai3 Pasar Borong…alot of cheap cheap stuff namely MADE IN CHINA..of course the quality also **

 Part of the pasar borong

Caught Red Handed

I wonder has any parents who co-sleep with their toddlers/pre-schooler encounter this. Being bumped into when you and your partner are in a hot steamy session. How would you react? What would you tell/explain to them?

This happened sometimes back. During the kids afternoon nap..suddenly JS woke up when we were in the midst of *ahem*….I quickly get her back to sleep by lying down beside her, good thing I’m not totally naked.. She didnt question me..and all of us fell asleep…. Later in the night she asked me (I thought she has forgotten all about what happen in the afternoon or too blurry eyes to see what’s going on) “mummy, why just now you never wear pants one…..” :$ aaa…eerrr…ahhh… “ooh..mummy want to go toilet , but you woke up”  What a lame excuse/answer.

I wish I have the humour to tell her “yea lo..mummy trying to make a mei mei for you ma”  unfortunately as much open minded as I wish to be and try to be, I’m still somewhat a reserved Asian. My first reaction is quickly brush it off/hide it. It’s not a taboo… yup..one day I will teach her the things she suppose to know…but at this moment , I think it will be too much for her to comprehend and digest..now is not the right time yet. How would you react? By the way I just hope she wont be that big mouth to go announce to everybody on what she saw. (Some of my mum’s students in pre-school do announce that in school to teachers and friends)

I bumped into my parents once before, when I was 9 or 10 ..somehow at that age, I knew what was going on. I remembered hearing my mum asked my dad “sei la…what to tell her tomorrow huh?” but the next day came…i just pretend I see /hear nothing…i didn’t bring it up , I didn’t keh poh …and they also never brought it up and let it pass as if nothing happen.

Hubby also had the experience on bumping into his parents once when he was quite old already..maybe in secondary school… they just pretend nothing happen..dont see…dont talk…

With the kids arival…intimacy session no longer is lovey romantic and slow pace. It’s a luxury if we can find time and opportunity for this romantic session. So often than not it ended up as a quicky or even lucky enough not be interrupted during these quicky sessions. Many nights we wanted to wait them to fall asleep before having couple time, but ended up hubby snoring and me half in dreamland way before they slept. I wonder why somehow the kids can sense it during the time the parents want to be intimate. When we are in the mood (that’s so so rare because of the exhaustion of work and taking care of them), usually it takes longer to get the kids to fall asleep or even sleep through soundly… no matter how quiet and discreet, most often they still stir from their sleep when you are in the midst of action..ooh..so potong steam…. these are the time that I can’t wait for them to sleep in their own room….