I got to know a mummy from a parenting group years ago when JS was still a baby. This girlfriend of mine left her husband shortly after the birth of her 2nd daughter which was born the same year as WH. The reason why she left her husband is because she thinks her husband couldn’t provide her with materialistic goods. Her husband is a site supervisor, has a car and a double storey link house, though the money that he brought home each month is about 3k, but this girl friend of mine is not satisfy with that, that’s why she left.
We seldom keep in touch, as hubby thinks she can be a bad influence to me. But I know over the past 2 1/2 years , each time we do catch up through MSN, she’s with different man. She change her partner so often and she even brag that she double or multi dated and sleep with different men at the same time. One of her bf sponsored her for a booby job.
Few days ago, she MSN me again. This time she is with another man and they living in together and they have only been together for 6 months ( Which mean I haven’t chatted with her for more than 6 months liao) . This one obviously is a old man (40 ++ ) my friend is 29 this year , a divorcee with a 10 year old son. Anyhow her two girls age 5 and 3 , she left them under the care of her MIL in Ipoh while she works in KL.
She has been complaining to me that how difficult her elder girl is and how slow she’s catching up in school and has behaviour problem. In my heart I was thinking “of course la…no parental love and care , in a broken family, how not to have behaviour problem. My friend kept asking me on JS progress and development, how much she can read, spell , count and she said her girl already can spell ONE to TEN and those with “TEEN” behind also can spell…blablabla. If her daughter is so good , can spell and read, why is she still worried? Kiasu parents setting so high expectation on her kids but never care of how the kids feel.
I still remember years ago, she would keep asking me what brand of formula I used, what’s JS’s milestone and development, what brand of diaper, milk bottle I used . And now.. it’s what school etc etc. She said she wants to sent her girl for private tuition and extra class… and has been asking me about what is good what’s not, she said she might want to move her girl back to PJ with her, but I really doubt she will have the time for her girl when she’s so busy with her man. Actually very sickening to befriend with kiasu mother like that. I also remembered she used to ask how much I earned and hubby earns , she always envy others whose husband earns alot. She thinks money is all and only buy the most expensive for her kids. But c’mon la…. kids dont really know how to appreciate that….. children need loves , nurture and to be brought up in a nice cosy loving family.
By the way , she’s still legally married to her husband, coz her husband refuse to sign the paper and she on and off kept in touch with him and she told me the husband is not doing so good. (maybe as in not earning enough $$$$ to her standard). And I just don’t know how she can still keep in touch with her so call in-laws and ask her MIL to take care of her kids, when she’s out having fun, sleeping around with different man, a woman who does not fulfill her role as a wife and mother. Doesn’t she feel ashame when facing the in-laws???