Homework

September 25, 2006

I want to rant…

Each time JS brought back home work like this… I would be a SUPER disastified parent and at the verge of pulling her out from the school immediatelly…. I become very “mang zhang” when guiding her doing this kind of homework that I feel there is something very wrong with her school system.

This is what I’m so unhappy about…getting a four years old to write words in between lines, where the kids eyes-hands cordination is still not perfect. I know many school wouldn’t start this until the 2nd half year of the 5 years class, at 4 years old, the kids only require to write in boxes…but JS’s pre-school has been getting her to do this much earlier…and imagine my girl is not even 4….

This is what she wrote by herself…but I have to point on which line and where she’s suppose to start.

This also she wrote by herself….but with a lot of guiding and pointing on where to start and end and also keep reminding her to write the alphabets closely to each other.

This is way too much for her…so I have to write and let her do the tracing instead.

The result if I let her write by her own…. she insisted…but ended up like the above….so I have to erased it off and get her to redo…

Any expert in early childhood education or kid’s development…please englighten me….if this is what to be expected from a 4 years old to acomplish??? For me I personally feel that it’s too much for the kids to cope. I don’t mind her writing in boxes..but not in between lines which might even strain the kids eye sight….

This is acceptable as it’s writing in big boxes…

Note: when I was doing school hunting. One of the school mentioned that the four years old class will start off with alot of sandpaper play and tearing papers (to strenghten the wrist) before actually gettting the kids to do tracing of lines and curves….

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弟子规

August 15, 2006

(总叙〉原文:

弟子规 圣人训 首孝悌 次谨信 泛爱众 而亲仁 有余力 则学文

解说:

至乐莫如读书,至要莫如教子。

《弟子规》这本书是学童们的生活规范,他是依据至圣先师孔子的教诲编成的。

首先,在日常生活中要做到孝敬父母,友爱兄弟姐妹,其次一切言行中,要谨慎,要讲信用;和大众交往时要平等仁和,要时常亲近有仁德的人,向他学习 。以上这些事是学习的根本,非做不可。如果做了还有余遐,更应努力的学习礼、乐、射、御、书、术等六艺,各种经典,以及其他有益的学问。

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〈入则孝〉原文:

父母呼 应勿缓 父母命 行勿懒 父母教 须敬听 父母责 须顺承
冬则温 夏则凊 晨则省 昏则定 出必告 反必面 居有常 业无变
事虽小 勿擅为 茍擅为 子道亏 物虽小 勿私藏 茍私藏 亲心伤
亲所好 力为具 亲所恶 谨为去 身有伤 贻亲忧 德有伤 贻亲羞
亲爱我 孝何难 亲憎我 孝方贤
亲有过 谏使更 怡吾色 柔吾声 谏不入 悦复谏 号泣随 挞无怨
亲有疾 药先尝 昼夜侍 不离床 丧三年 常悲咽 居处变 酒肉绝
丧尽礼 祭尽诚 事死者 如事生

解说:

孝悌是中国文化的基础,古人云:“百善孝为先”。一个人能够孝顺,他就有一颗善良 仁慈的心,有了这份仁心,就可以利益许许多多的人。

在家中,父母叫唤我们时,应该一听到就立刻回答,不要慢吞吞的答应。父母有事要我们去做,要赶快行动,不要借故拖延,或者懒得去做。父母要我们学好而教导我们时 ,必须恭敬而不可随便,要将话听到心里。我们犯错了,父母责备我们,应当顺从并且承担过失,不可忤逆他们,让他们伤心。

为人子女,冬天要留意父母亲穿的是否温暖,居处是否暖和。夏天,要考虑父母是否感到凉爽。每早起床,一定要看望父母亲,请问身体是否安好;傍晚回来了,也一定要向父母亲问安 。外出时,先告诉父母要到哪里去,回家以后,一定面见父母亲,让他们感到心安。日常生活起居作息有一定的秩序,而且对于所从事的事情,不随便改变 。

事情虽然很小,不要擅自做主而不禀告父母,假如任意而为,就有损于为人子女的本分,东西虽然很小,也不要背着父母,偷偷的私藏起来,被父母知道了,父母心里一定十分难过 。

父母亲所喜爱的东西,当子女的都应尽力准备 齐全,父母所厌恶的,都该小心排除。万一我们的身体受到伤害,一定会给父母亲带来忧愁,我们的品格有了缺失,会让父母亲感到羞辱、没有面子。

父母亲爱护子女,子女能孝顺父母亲,那是极其天然的事,这样的孝顺又有什么困难呢?如果父母亲讨厌我们,却还能够用心尽孝,那才算得是难能可贵。一般人 总认为,父母要对子女有所付出后,子女才要有行孝的义务,这和菜市场的讨价还价有什么两样呢?

父母亲有了过失,当子女的一定要劝谏改正,而劝谏的时候,绝对不可板着面孔, 声色俱厉,脸色要温和愉悦,话语要柔顺平和。假如父母亲不接受我们的劝谏,那要等到父母高兴的时候再劝谏。若父母亲仍固执不听,有孝心的人不忍父母亲 陷于不义,甚至放声哭泣,来恳求父母改过,即使招父母亲责打也毫无怨言、

当父母亲有了疾病,熬好的汤药,做子女的一定要先尝尝,是否太凉或太热 。不分白天或夜晚,都有应该侍奉在父母身边,不可随意离开父母太远,在父母重病时,最需要有人照顾,尤其是自己的子女能在身边陪伴,照顾起居,是父母心中最感温暖与满足的。在父母临终病重之际,为人子女的我们, 岂能因为事业忙,或没有时间,而放弃这种机会呢?

当父母不幸去世,必定要守丧三年,守丧期间,因为思念父母就常常悲伤哭泣起来,自己住的地方也改为简朴,并戒除喝酒、吃肉的生活享受。办理父母的丧事要依照礼仪,不可草率马虎,祭祀时要尽到诚意 。对待已经去逝的父母亲,要像对待父母生前一样的恭敬。

为什么要这样做呢?孔子说:“孩子生下来三年之久,才离开父母的怀抱,能够自己走自己吃,让父母稍稍松一口气,当子女的 ,我们在父母去逝后,为什么就不能在三年的丧期中时时刻刻想念父母,爱念父母呢?”人生在世父母与我们最亲,给我们的恩情也最重,努力学习侍奉父母的礼节, 把孝道当成一项大事业,用心经营,才能立足于天地之间。父慈子孝,不一定让我们的家富裕有钱,不一定有花园别墅可以住,但是,孝行却可以建立天然和谐的 秩序,让我们活在安和乐逸的环境中。家,如果是一个人的堡垒,孝,就是堡垒下的基石。多一份孝心,家就多一份保障,让我们用孝行把家固若 金汤堡垒。

《弟子规》这些规矩,看似平常无奇,但是,如果我们认真去实行,那带给父母亲的欢欣快乐。可不是有性的东西可以媲美的哟。现在我们在家庭就能培养出这么好的言行举止,将来自然会有意想不到的收获。
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〈出则弟〉原文:

兄道友 弟道恭 兄弟睦 孝在中 财物轻 怨何生 言语忍 忿自泯
或饮食 或坐走 长者先 幼者后 长呼人 即代叫 人不在 己即到
称尊长 勿呼名 对尊长 勿见能 路遇长 疾趋揖 长无言 退恭立
骑下马 乘下车 过犹待 百步餘
长者立 幼勿坐 长者坐 命乃坐 尊长前 声要低 低不闻 却非宜
近必趋 退必迟 问起对 视勿移
事诸父 如事父 事诸兄 如事兄

解说:

出则弟,说的是家中兄弟相处之道,以及如何和长辈 在一起的规矩。在这些规范中,训练小孩谦恭有礼,懂得尊重别人,自然容易融入团体,为大家所接纳。当哥哥姐姐的要能友爱弟妹,做弟妹的应做到 恭敬兄姐,这样兄弟姐妹就能和睦而减少冲突,父母心中就快乐。在这和睦当中就存在孝道。

把身外所用的钱财物品看轻点,少计较,兄弟之间就不会产生怨恨 ;讲话时不要太冲动,伤感情的话要能忍住不说,那么不必要的冲突怨恨就会消失无踪。

日常饮食起居中,有人认为孩子还小,和长辈相处在一起,不要太过要求他们,长大自然就适应了,甚至对孩子宠爱有加,把好吃好用的先给小孩享用,以致小孩认为这样是理所当然的,不知道要礼让长辈,因而误导孩子养成坏的习惯。而《弟子规》却指导我们,不要因为大人的宠爱而忽略了应从小培养礼让的美德,不管是吃东西或喝饮料,要请长辈先用;如果和长辈坐在一起,要请长辈先坐;如果和长辈走在一起,应让长辈先走。

长辈呼叫人时,自已听见了,要替长辈去传唤,如果所叫的人不在时,自己应当回来报告长辈,更能进一步请问长辈,有没有需要帮忙的事情。

称呼长辈时,不可以直呼长辈的名字,那是不礼貌的行为;在长辈面前,不要表现自己很有才能,藐视长辈。

走路时遇见长辈,要赶紧走上前去行礼问候,如果长辈没和我们说话时,就先退在一旁恭恭敬敬的站着,让长辈先走过去。如果自己是骑马的,遇到长辈就应该下马,如果乘坐车辆就应该下车,让长辈先过去,等待大约离我们百步的距离以后,自己才上马或上车。

如果长辈还站着,年幼的我们不应先坐下来,如果长辈坐着,允许我们坐下时才可以坐下。在长辈面前讲话,声音要低,但是回答的声音,低到听不清楚,那也不适当,要和颜悦色,声音要柔和清楚才好。进见长辈时走路要快点,动作表现得很礼节,等到告退时,要慢慢退出。长辈问话时,要站起回答,眼神注视长辈,不要左右移动。

对待叔叔伯伯,要像对待自己的父亲一样恭敬,对待同族兄长,要像对待自己的胞兄一样友爱.
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〈谨〉原文:

朝起早 夜眠迟 老易至 惜此时 晨必盥 兼漱口 便溺回 辄净手
冠必正 纽必结 袜与履 俱紧切 置冠服 有定位 勿乱顿 致污秽
衣贵洁 不贵华 上循分 下称家 对饮食 勿拣择 食适可 勿过则
年方少 勿饮酒 饮酒醉 最为丑
步从容 立端正 揖深圆 拜恭敬 勿践阈 勿跛倚 勿箕踞 勿摇髀
缓揭帘 勿有声 宽转弯 勿触棱 执虚器 如执盈 入虚室 如有人
事勿忙 忙多错 勿畏难 勿轻略 斗闹场 绝勿近 邪僻事 绝勿问
将入门 问孰存 将上堂 声必扬 人问谁 对以名 吾与我 不分明
用人物 须明求 倘不问 即为偷 借人物 及时还 后有急 借不难

解说:

为人子,早上要尽量早起,晚上要晚点睡觉,因为人生的岁月很有限,光阴容易消逝,少年人一转眼就是老年人了,所以我们要珍惜现在宝贵的时光。

每天早上起床必须先洗脸,然后刷牙濑口,解完大小便以后把手洗干净,这样才是讲究卫生的好孩子 。

出门帽子要戴端正,穿衣服要把纽扣纽好;袜子和鞋子都要穿得贴切,鞋带要系紧 ,这样全身仪容才整齐。脱下来的帽子和衣服应当放置在固定的位置,不要随手乱丢乱放以免弄皱弄脏。穿衣服注重的是整齐清洁,不在衣服的昂贵华丽,而且要依照自己的身分穿着 ,也要配合家庭的经济状况。

对于食物不要挑剔偏食,而且要吃适当的份量,不要吃过量。我们年纪还小尚未成年 ,更不该尝试喝酒,因为喝醉了丑态百出,最容易表现出不当的言行。

走路时脚步要从容不迫,站立的姿势要端正。注意行礼时要把身子深深地躬下 ,跪拜时要恭敬尊重。

进门时不要踩到门槛,站立时要避免身子歪曲斜倚,坐着时不要双脚 展开簸箕,或者是虎琚的样子,也不要抖脚或摇臀,这样才能表现优雅怡人的姿态。

进门的时候慢慢的揭开帘子,尽量不发出声响,走路转弯时与棱角要远一点 ,保持较宽的距离,才不会碰到棱角伤了身体;拿空的器具要像拿盛满的一样小心,进到没人的屋子里,要像进到有人的屋子里一样。

做事不要匆匆忙忙,匆忙就容易出错,遇到该办的事情不要怕困难,而犹豫 退缩,也不要轻率随便而敷衍了事。容易发生打斗的场所,我们不要靠近逗留;对于邪恶怪僻的事情,不必好奇的去追问。

将要入门之前先问一下:“有人在吗”?将要走进厅堂时,先放大音量要让厅堂里的人知道 ;假使有人请问:“你是谁”,回答时要说出自己的名字,如果只说“吾”或是“我”,对方就听不清楚到底是谁。我们要使用别人的物品,必须事前对人讲清楚,如果没有得到允许就拿来用 ,那就相当于偷窃的行为。借用他人的物品用完了要立刻归还,以后遇到急用再向人借时,就不会有太多的困难。这些平常语言行为的要则,让我们即知即行,掌握自己 ,使处事更有效率,待人更为和谐,创造一个身心调和的环境。如果我们一时做不到也不必气馁,只要能清楚的辨别方向,认同圣贤的教化,肯用功夫慢慢的琢磨,就像 璞石也能慢慢地呈现出美玉来。
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〈信〉原文:

凡出言 信为先 诈与妄 奚可焉 话说多 不如少 惟其是 勿佞巧
奸巧语 秽污词 市井气 切戒之
见未真 勿轻言 知未的 勿轻传 事非宜 勿轻诺 茍轻诺 进退错
凡道字 重且舒 勿急疾 勿模糊 彼说长 此说短 不关己 莫闲管
见人善 即思齐 纵去远 以渐跻 见人恶 即内省 有则改 无加警
唯德学 唯才艺 不如人 当自砺 若衣服 若饮食 不如人 勿生戚
闻过怒 闻誉乐 损友来 益友却 闻誉恐 闻过欣 直谅士 渐相亲
无心非 名为错 有心非 名为恶 过能改 归于无 倘掩饰 增一辜

解说:

凡是开口说话,首先要讲究信用,欺诈不实的言语,在社会上可以永远行得通吗?话说得多不如说的少 ,凡事实实在在,不要讲些不合实际的花言巧语,另外,奸邪巧辩的言语,脏不雅的词句及无赖之徒通俗的口气,都要切实戒除掉。

还未看到事情的真相 ,不轻易发表意见,对于事情了解的不够清楚,不轻易传播出去,觉得事情不恰当,不要轻易答应,如果轻易答应就会使自己进退两难。谈吐说话要稳重而且舒畅 ,不要说得太快太急,或者说得字句模糊不清,让人听得不清楚或会错意。遇到别人谈论别人的是非好坏时,如果与已无关就不要多管闲事。

看见他人的优点行为 ,心中就升起向他看齐的好念头,虽然目前还差得很远,只要肯努力就能渐渐赶上。不论大善或小善,都要有思齐的信心和励行的勇气,小善切戒轻呼不 做,而行大善的机会来了也要及时把握,尽心尽力勉强而之。

看见他人犯了罪恶的时候 ,心里先反省自己,如果也犯同样的过错,就立刻改掉,如果没有就更加警觉不犯同样的过错。

当道德学问和才艺不如他人时 ,应该自我督促努力赶上,至于穿的衣服和吃的饮食不如他人时,可以不用担心、郁闷。

听见 别人说我的过错就生气,称赞我就高兴,这样不好的朋友就会越来越多,真诚有益的朋友就不敢和我们在一起。如果听到别人称赞我先自我反省,生怕自己没有这些优点 ,只是空有虚名;当听到别人批评我的过错时,心里却欢喜接受,那么正直诚实的人就越喜欢和我们亲近。

不是有心故意做错的 ,称为过错;若是明知故犯的,便是罪恶。不小心犯了过错,能勇于改正就会越改越少,渐归于无过,如果故意掩盖过错,那反而又增加一项掩饰的罪过 了。
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〈泛爱众〉原文:

凡是人 皆须爱 天同覆 地同载
行高者 名自高 人所重 非貌高 才大者 望自大 人所服 非言大
己有能 勿自私 人所能 勿轻訾 勿谄富 勿骄贫 勿厌故 勿喜新
人不闲 勿事搅 人不安 勿话扰
人有短 切莫揭 人有私 切莫说 道人善 即是善 人知之 愈思勉
扬人恶 既是恶 疾之甚 祸且作 善相劝 德皆建 过不规 道两亏
凡取与 贵分晓 与宜多 取宜少 将加人 先问己 己不欲 即速已
恩欲报 怨欲忘 报怨短 报恩长
待婢仆 身贵端 虽贵端 慈而宽 势服人 心不然 理服人 方无言

解说:

对于大众有关怀爱护的心,如同苍天与大地,绝对没有私心,不论好人、坏人、聪明、愚笨、宝贵、贫贱、种族国界都一样给予保护和承载,纯是一片仁慈之心,不为名利毫无虚假 。正是“天同覆,地同载”的大同境界。

泛爱众的人人君子,他的心中有人我一体的观念,所以肯放下滔滔私心,关怀大众 ,我们若处处学着仁厚待人,在德行上改过修养,守住人的品格,并深入学习各项才艺,相信也能做出一份番利益大众的事业。

品行高尚的人,名声自然高,人们所敬重的是德行,并不是论外貌是否出众 ;才能大的人声望自然大,人们所信服的是真才,并不是只会发表言论。

自己有能力做的事情,不要自私保守;看到别人有才华,应该多加赞美肯定 ,不要因为嫉妒而贬低别人。

对富有的人态度不谄媚求荣;对贫穷的人不表现出骄傲自大的样子,不厌恶 不嫌弃亲戚老友,也不一味喜爱新人新朋友。至圣先师孔子教导我们,贫穷的人除了不谄媚迎合外,能够在道德上自得其乐更好,富有的人不但不以骄傲的心态妨碍他人 ,更要爱好礼节,恭敬大众。贫和富只是生活方式不同而已,都要学习礼节充实各项才能,发挥人我一体的仁心,才能营造一个“贫而乐,富而好礼”的幸福社会。

他人有事,忙得没有空暇,就不要找事搅乱他;对方身心很不安定,我们就不 再用闲言碎语干扰他。别人的短处绝对不要揭露出来,别人有秘密不想让人知道,我们就不要说出来。

赞美别人的善行,就等于是自己行善,因为对方知道了,就会更加勉励行善 ;宣扬别人的过恶,就等于自己作恶,如果过份的憎恶,就会招来灾祸。行善能相互劝勉,彼此都能建立良好的德行,有了过错而不相互规劝,相方都会在品行上留下缺陷 。

和人有财物上的往来,应当分辨清楚不可含糊。或者,财物只与他人应该慷慨多 布施;取用别人的财物就应少取一些;有事要托人做或有话要和人说,先问一问自己是不是喜欢,如果自己不喜欢就应立刻停止。

他人对我有恩惠,应时时想回报他;不小心和人结了怨仇,应求他人谅解,及早忘掉仇恨 ,报怨之心停留的时间越短越好,但是报答恩情的心意却要长存不忘,对待家中的待婢和仆人,本身行为要注重端正庄重不可轻浮随便,若能进一步做到仁慈、宽厚,那就更完美了 。权势可以获使人服从,虽然表面上不敢反抗,心中却不以为然。唯有以道理感化对方,才能让人心悦诚服而没有怨言。

虽然现在也很少有人用婢仆,但是上下尊卑的关系仍然处处可见,让我们一起来学习仁德君子的泛爱众 ,多为大众着想,共同营造一个相互关怀、相互体谅的温馨社会.
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〈亲仁〉原文:

同是人 类不齐 流俗众 仁者希 果仁者 人多畏 言不讳 色不媚
能亲仁 无限好 德日进 过日少 不亲仁 无限害 小人进 百事坏

解说:

同样都是人,类别却不一定整齐,就一般说,跟着潮流走的俗人占了大部分,而有仁德的人却显得稀少。对于一位真正的仁者,大家自然敬畏他,仁者说话不会故意隐讳 扭曲事实,脸色态度也不会故意向人谄媚求好。能够亲近仁者,向他学习就会得到无限的好处,自己的品德自然进步,过错也跟着减少。如果不肯亲近仁者,无形中就会产生许多害处 ,小人会乘虚而入,围绕身旁,事情就会弄得一败涂地。

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〈余力学文〉原文:

不力行 但学文 长浮华 成何人 但力行 不学文 任己见 昧理真
读书法 有三到 心眼口 信皆要 方读此 勿慕彼 此未终 彼勿起
宽为限 紧用功 工夫到 滞塞通 心有疑 随札记 就人问 求确义
房室清 墙壁净 几案洁 笔砚正 墨磨偏 心不端 字不敬 心先病
列典籍 有定处 读看毕 还原处 虽有急 卷束齐 有缺坏 就补之
非圣书 屏勿视 敝聪明 坏心志 勿自暴 勿自弃 圣与贤 可驯致

解说:

对于孝、弟、谨、信、泛爱众、亲仁这些应该努力实行的本份,却不肯力行,只在学问上研究探索,这样最容易养成虚幻浮华的习性,怎能成为一个真正有用的人呢?相对的 ,如果只重力行,对于学问却不肯研究,就容易执著自己的看法,而无法契合真理,这也不是我们所应有的态度。

今日普遍流行诋毁圣贤的风气,怀疑古人,藐视伦常大道。尤其是基本的孝道 ,近几年来,更被视为隘板落伍,大家虽有心改革社会乱象,也动用大批的人力物力倡导,终因伦常观念被大家忘失太久了,使得社会秩序无法整顿起来。孔子曾指出 :“立志、自立、立仁的君子要广博的研究各种学问,然后用礼节来约束言行,这样一个具有知识和礼节的君子,他的言行就不至于太离谱了。”《弟子规》把礼的内容 具体化,只要循着《弟子规》来实践,兼学各种经典和生活知识,就能拥有高远的智慧和实践的勇气,智勇双全的人,必然不会偏离正道,正道就是直路,很快便能到达目标 。

读书的方法要注重三到,就是心到、眼到、口到。这三到都要实实在在的做到 。读书时正在读这一段,就不要想到别段,这段还未读完读通,不要因为没有兴趣,失去了好奇心,就跳到另一段,而东翻西阅,不肯定下心来,按步就班的读完。读书时要有规范 ,读一本书或一门功课,要有比较宽裕的期限,但是不能因为时间有多余,就等期限快到了才开始读,一急之下反而耽误事情,所以一规化好就要赶紧用功。

遇到滞塞难通的地方,更要专心研究,只要功夫到了,自然就能通达了解,这正是所谓书读千遍 ,其意自现。有疑问的地方,经反复思考,还不能了解的话,就用笔把问题记下来,向有关的师长请教,一定要得到正确的答案才可放过。

书房要整理得简单清洁,四周墙壁保持干净,书桌清洁干净,所用的笔和砚台要摆放端正 ,在砚台上磨墨,如果墨条磨扁了,就是存心不端正,写字若随便不公正,就是心里先有了病,排列经典图书,要安放在固定的地方,读完以后立刻归还原处,即使发生紧急的事也要 先收拾整齐以后才能离开。遇到书本有残缺损坏时,应立刻补好保持完整,你爱书,书爱你,自有一份恭敬在其中,一份恭敬就有一份收获,十分恭敬就有十分收获。

如果不是传输圣贤道理的书籍,一概摒除一旁不要理它,因为书里面不正当的事理会蒙蔽我们 的聪明智慧,会败坏我们纯正的志向。

不要自以为是而狂妄自大,也不要自甘堕落而放弃自己,圣贤的境界的虽高 ,但只要按步就班,循序渐进,人人都可到达。处在蒙昧年幼之时,若采要正正当当的教材,配合优良的环境,来培养学习,就能造就圣贤。《弟子规》所讲的道理,正是圣人的 训诲,从入则孝、出则弟、谨而信、泛爱众,亲仁及余力学文着手,在日常生活中的伦常做起,经家庭扩及到学校、社会,最能孕育出正人君子的品行。所以这本书应该认真的反复读诵 ,深入内心,当成个人反省的镜子至行为的指针


三字经

August 4, 2006

人之初,性本善。性相近,习相远。苟不教,性乃迁。教之道,贵以专。
昔孟母,择邻处。子不学,断机杼。窦燕山,有义方。教五子,名俱扬。
养不教,父之过。教不严,师之惰。子不学,非所宜。幼不学,老何为。
玉不琢,不成器。人不学,不知义。为人子,方少时。亲师友,习礼仪。
香九龄,能温席。孝于亲,所当执。融四岁,能让梨。弟于长,宜先知。
首孝弟,次见闻。知某数,识某文。一而十,十而百。百而千,千而万。
三才者,天地人。三光者,日月星。三纲者,君臣义。父子亲,夫妇顺。
曰春夏,曰秋冬。此四时,运不穷。曰南北,曰西东。此四方,应乎中。
曰水火,木金土。此五行,本乎数。曰仁义,礼智信。此五常,不容紊。
稻粱菽,麦黍稷。此六谷,人所食。马牛羊,鸡犬豕。此六畜,人所饲。
曰喜怒,曰哀惧。爱恶欲,七情具。□土革,木石金。与丝竹,乃八音。
高曾祖,父而身。身而子,子而孙。自子孙,至元曾。乃九族,而之伦。
父子恩,夫妇从。兄则友,弟则恭。长幼序,友与朋。君则敬,臣则忠。
此十义,人所同。

凡训蒙,须讲究。详训诂,名句读。为学者,必有初。小学终,至四书。
论语者,二十篇。群弟子,记善言。孟子者,七篇止。讲道德,说仁义。
作中庸,子思笔。中不偏,庸不易。作大学,乃曾子。自修齐,至平治。
孝经通,四书熟。如六经,始可读。诗书易,礼春秋。号六经,当讲求。
有连山,有归藏。有周易,三易详。有典谟,有训诰。有誓命,书之奥。
我周公,作周礼。著六官,存治体。大小戴,注礼记。述圣言,礼乐备。
曰国风,曰雅颂。号四诗,当讽咏。诗既亡,春秋作。寓褒贬,别善恶。
三传者,有公羊。有左氏,有彀梁。经既明,方读子。撮其要,记其事。
五子者,有荀杨。文中子,及老庄。

经子通,读诸史。考世系,知终始。自羲农,至黄帝。号三皇,居上世。
唐有虞,号二帝。相揖逊,称盛世。夏有禹,商有汤。周文王,称三王。
夏传子,家天下。四百载,迁夏社。汤伐夏,国号商。六百载,至纣亡。
周武王,始诛纣。八百载,最长久。周辙东,王纲堕。逞干戈,尚游说。
始春秋,终战国。五霸强,七雄出。嬴秦氏,始兼并。传二世,楚汉争。
高祖兴,汉业建。至孝平,王莽篡。光武兴,为东汉。四百年,终于献。
魏蜀吴,争汉鼎。号三国,迄两晋。宋齐继,梁陈承。为南朝,都金陵。
北元魏,分东西。宇文周,兴高齐。迨至隋,一土宇。不再传,失统绪。
唐高祖,起义师。除隋乱,创国基。二十传,三百载。梁义之,国乃改。
炎宋兴,受周禅。十八传,南北混。辽于金,皆称帝。太祖兴,国大明。
号洪武,都金陵。迨成祖,迁燕京。十六世,至崇祯。阉乱后,寇内讧。
闯逆变,神器终。清顺治,据神京。至十传,宣统逊。举总统,共和成。
复汉土,民国兴。

廿二史,全在兹。载治乱,知兴衰。读史书,考实录。通古今,若亲目。
口而诵,心而惟。朝于斯,夕于斯。昔仲尼,师项□。古圣贤,尚勤学。
赵中令,读鲁论。彼既仕,学且勤。披蒲编,削竹简。彼无书,且知勉。
头悬梁,锥刺股。彼不教,自勤苦。如囊萤,如映雪。家虽贫,学不缀。
如负薪,如挂角。身虽劳,犹苦卓。苏老泉,二十七。始发愤,读书籍。
彼既老,犹悔迟。尔小生,宜早思。若梁□,八十二。对大廷,魁多士。
彼既成,众称异。尔小生,宜立志。莹八岁,能咏诗。泌七岁,能赋□。
彼颖悟,人称奇。尔幼学,当效之。蔡文姬,能辨琴。谢道□,能咏吟。
彼女子,且聪敏。尔男子,当自警。唐刘晏,方七岁。举神童,作正字。
彼虽幼,身己仕。尔幼学,勉而致。有为者,亦若是。

犬守夜,鸡司晨。苟不学,曷为人。蚕吐丝,蜂酿蜜。人不学,不如物。
幼而学,壮而行。上致君,下泽民。扬名声,显父母。光于前,裕于后。
人遗子,金满嬴。我教子,惟一经。勤有功,戏无益。戒之哉,宜勉力。


Education Worries

August 3, 2006

I couldn’t help not to write this post after reading daddykhong’s entry

Part of parenthood worries is the kids education. Which school to sent the kids to, what type of school, will we have enough savings to last them through their education. For us, we have done our very first step of saving up now in insurances for their higher education.

For me I’m more particular than hubby when concerning of school choice. Even for pre-school I’m already cracking my head and cross checking with my long list of criterias/considerations. Hubby left this to me only input very minimal suggestion when concerning of pre-school choice, because he himself had never attended kindergarten or any pre-school, thus he’s less fussy than me.

Let aside pre-school, the most headache is still the kids formal schooling when approaching age 7.

These are the type of schools available in Malaysia

  • Goverment/National school (There are 3 types – Malay, Chinese & Tamil. Syllabus is the same but the language that the syllabus is conveyed is different, of course in Chinese and Tamil medium there would be more subjects compares to the Malay ones)
  • Private school (Primary to Secondary, same gov syllabus)
  • International school
  • For secondary, there’s Chinese Independence School (Taiwan Syllabus)

Most of the ordinary families will only have the worries of what type of National schools to enrol their kids to, the location, whether they kids will be accepted into their school choice. Of course for those more privilege kids, they have a wider option of considering International and private schools which might sound like another alien world to many common families.

We are not super rich, just middle average family, but I do remember SIL vaguely mentioned about private school. But personaly I feel that it’s unnecessary. I dont want hubby and me to work ourself to death with most of the income spent on the kids school fees at private school. That would deprive us from other things in our daily life. Not to say we don’t want to give the best to our kids, but I guess the money can be spent wisely elsewhere for the kids benefit as well. Maybe with just one child, I might consider, but when planning to have at least 3 and trying to be fair to each of them, I don’t think we can afford to sent all of them to private one. Other than that, I don’t want my kids to be consious about their privilege even we don’t mention about it. I don’t want them to grow up feeling that they have been given this special arrangement whereby most of the peer around them is attending the normal national schools. Don’t want them to grow up to be a spoilt brat and arrogant. I believe social integrity can be further enforced if the kids is in national school where they mingle with peer from different backgrounds. In private school, they only get to group up with the super rich, those who’s born with the golden key in their mouth. (败家仔/二世祖/千金小姐/公仔哥儿)

Of course when choices is left with national schools we will have the following worries

  1. Academic standards / quality of teaching
  2. Proficiency in the 3 languages
  3. National integration

I’ve grown up in a small town where private/international schools is unheard of to me or beyond reached (Me very “sua tu/babi hutan”). I’ve attended a SRJK (C) (National Type – Chinese School) and later continue my secondary education in a SMK. (A national secondary school. There are two types of national secondary school. SMK and SMJK with the latter usually having 80% of Chinese students) from then on I was in private colleges.

Hubby attended a SK and later a SMK then later further his studies in TAR (wonder how come he never picks up any Mandarin during his years there) and his Master in UK. Both of us were the breed of national school and we turn out OK. (Our English proficiency?? You judge lah!)

All my cousins did well in national schools. They are now orthodontist, doctor/doctor to be, pharmacist, musician, microbiologist. And they are no book worm but well rounded students. Their comand in english is good, they can be parred with those that graduated from private/international school, and mind you, most my cousins are from small town, not the urban city.

I’m not all praise for our national schools. I know the teacher-students ratio is high. Especially in Chinese school, it can go up to as many as 50 students in the class. I don’t like the spoon feed method. I think the knowledge covers in the text is limited and dull and for Chinese National school there’s a lot of pressure and drilling from the teacher. In National Malay school you have teachers that are holding those “Tidak apa” attitude and not forgotten teachers that are not knowledgeable and cannot speak good English.

But I won’t let all these hinder me from sending my kids to national schools. We should not rely solely on the school and teachers for our kids education. Parents play an important role in guiding, coaching the kids. Family upbringing also will encourage students to have the initiative to want to excel and let not just depends on school text. I don’t have any worries about their English language profieciency as we speak English at home and we will be able to correct them through daily conversations. I’m cultivating my kids the love of reading now so that they can absorb a wider knowledge from reading and I’ve also invested in children encyolpedias which covers wider range on Science topics and I’m slowly flipping the books together with my kids. I believe as long as there is an interest for them to find out, they will gain from whatever they read. I also believe that parents who is capable to surf the net and have the interest to find out more for the kids wellbeing is also capable to coach the kids along the way throughout their studies journey. We parents should learn along the way too, finding new information/knowlegde to answer the kids queries, to correct them if the teachers not able to do the proper job. The success of the students is very much dependent on the parents guidance (as for the example in my family), not so much of the school and teachers. So which ever school one attended make not much difference.

We have planned to send the kids to National Type Chinese School for their primary education. I insist want them to learn an extra language, since hubby is a total “banana” I think he would appreciate if the kids could learn more than one language. I’m confindent that I can coach them along just like what my mum did to us. I know it would be a very pressured study environment in a chinese school, but that’s only for the first 6 years and I don’t intend to send them to many tuitions and extra classes. Once they finish the first 6 year of primary schooling, and when they enter the national type of secondary school and start mingle with those from National type Malay school, I know they will be able to cope better with the stress compare to those from Malay school.

As for long term plan, we hope that the kids can study hard and secure a place in local uni and maybe go oversea for year for exposure. But if they failed to (quota system etc etc) then we are prepared for them to go on “DADDY’S SCHOLORSHIP” for their further studies. So far only one argument with hubby..the location of the school. Hubby wanted them to go for the one near in laws place, I want to put them in the new school near our new house, to save time from commuting and avoid the jam. We will stick to the former as for the time being.

Ps: To enrol the kids in national school. One needs to register the kid in the desire school on the year the kid turn 5 and in the month of March. Bring along the kid’s birth cert, your own IC and utilities bills. You might be able to secure a place if you miss the registration period with a lot of “lubang” for string pulling, back doors procedure and fatty cheque for donation. :p


JS’s Writing

July 5, 2006


After 1/2 year of schooling, JS’s writing is making progress. From not knowing how to write any alphabets to able to write words now. Though there are still a few alphabets that she can’t master. Usually I would draw dotted lines for her to trace if she finds it difficult to do so, but I would encourage her to try by herself first. Sometimes she even say to me that “mummy, no need to draw dotted line, this one I know how to write by myself”

I’m proud of her above writing. Can be considered nice and neat for a 3 1/2years old. She’s also showing interest in writing her own name now even daddy’s. She doesn’t know how to spell it out completely yet, we don’t use her English name “Nicole” , so she has to spell and write out her full name which is quite many alphabets to remember.


More About Course

June 30, 2006

Just received more information on my course.

A schedule for the 11 days workshop has been sent to me. That will be from 27/11/06 till 9/12/06 with a practical exam at the end of the workshop. The workshop will start from 9.30am till 5.30pm (wah, such long hours) including Saturday.

What’s worst is that I need to do the LAN (Lembaga Akreditasi Negara) subjects. Which I’m not too happy about, but have no choice, it I don’t do it, I won’t get my diploma. Sucks… have to do it in BM (HATE! HATE! HATE! that) Not only that I need to pay extra RM400 for just 2 subjects (Moral Studies and Pengajian Malaysia) and I also need to attend classes for this 2 blardy subjects during the 11 days workshop. So I would have to spent a Sunday (9am-1pm) doing Pengajian Malaysia, and another 7 days I need to stay back as late as 10pm just to do the STUPID subjects after the workshop. HELL!

I don’t really see the need of these subjects. Blardy! I did it in my SPM already lah, why still need to do it when it does not help AT ALL. Waste of TIME, Waste of MONEY. Moral cannot be teached through studies one lah, blardy, some more we are already matured adults, who needs Moral Studies. Even when you sign up for a course with Open University, you need to do LAN subjects. I really don’t see how it serve the purpose. SPM cert, matriculation cert and a Uni cert not good enough meh?? Why when come to furthering studies for own interest, we are FORCED to do these unnecessary subjects again??? That’s one BIG turned off, discouraging people like me to further studies. If I wanted to do something in BM, I would have really study real hard to get into Public University years ago, but I opted a private college where ENGLISH is used. HATE IT! Being FORCE to do something I have no interest in. (Sounds a little unpatriotic, but I really hate the language! That’s also why I cursed when I received my income tax form!) I hate these 2 subjects and I hate that I have to do in BM.

With that I will have to leave the kids for a total of 13 full long days. Cannot imagine that. Will stay with parents in Puchong. Luckily is school holiday, mum and maid can look after the kids, but still I have never left WH behind before. I have been a SAHM since his birth and JS has gotten use to me being around. Worry, worry.. heart thumping. Even leaving them half a day at home, my heart already flown to them, constantly thinking of them. Now 13 full long days, will they be good? Will they throw tantrum? Will they cry looking for me? Will they miss me? Argh…so many worries. And I’m going to miss celebrating JS’s 4th birthday big. Thought want to celebrate with her schoolmates but seems like we going to miss it, moreover my exam is on the 9th Dec. I wonder has there been any SAHM that has to leave their kids behind temporary, how did they cope? Any suggestion?


School Violence

June 29, 2006

I saw this video clip on someone‘s blog when blog hopping. (Geez.. I don’t know how to copy the video, you have to access it from the link). It really scared me off and sent a cold chill down my spine after watching it. It’s a real disturbing video. I don’t remember seeing or hearing such violence during my secondary school days, though there were a bunch of naughty boys.

In the video clip, one of the girl was even making funny face in front of the camera, and there were students wearing ties (That means prefect. NO?), why didn’t they call for the teachers.

I don’t have any kids that’s in their teen or at school going age. But I do worry for my children’s future in school. What have the school became? A noble place to study and learn has turned into a place of violence and crime. School is no longer a safe place, there’s kidnapping, rapes, gangsterism, students involved in indecent acts….etc etc. It’s not uncommon for boys to be involved in gangsterism, it’s already bad, but girls involve in gang fighting, that’s worst and unthinkable. I have enough to worry about my daughter being con, rape, kidnap, now worst, need to have extra worry of being bully and mingle with the wrong group of people.

What kind of parents would raise this kind of problematic kids? Watch too much TV? Parents neglect? No proper religion? I hope the authority will take quick action. These bunch of girls should be sent to rehabilition center. They should be punished. I hope by the time my kids enter school, it would be a better, safer place.

Sidenote: After writing this, I went surfing, and this is in the news. here. One said the school authority is unaware of the fighting and the video clip, another said the headmaster is in denial, claiming that the clip was a haux, that the student just “play play”. The police were reserved about this as they claimed too many of this kind of video clips is circulating in the net (which mean they have doubt on the genuinity?) Serious action must be taken, not until someone is admitted in the hospital again, then only they seriously look into the matter.

Updates: Read from today’s newspaper that these gangster girls has been suspended from school. I wonder if this is the right action to be taken. Students who involved in gang fight apparently are those not so good in academic and not so keen on studying. By suspending them from school, I guess they would be much more happier than anything. That does not sound like a punishment to them. Without going to school, what are they going to do? where are they going during the whole day? Don’t expect them to be quarantine at home by their parents. Would their parents be bothered? I doubt. Maybe they would wander off in town,”lepaking”, which might cause more social problem. They should be sent and locked away in “rehabiliating school” (whatever it’s called) to be trained in special skill and be separated from their parents. Should give them a taste of being locked up without freedom and far away from loving family. Cruel? Nope. I think that will teach them a lesson to appreciate freedom of normal school and the comfort of living at home.